I have been fuming for days about this. The more I think about it the more I fume! I am going to write about it here, and then I will do my best to let it go.
My husband works for days at a time without coming home so I often take the kids and we visit him at work. Just a few days ago we were visiting him at work and planning our next family vacation. Boone started to get really fussy. We were in the middle of purchasing plane tickets so without even thinking twice I fed him. He calmed down, we planned our vacation, no big deal.
Fast forward several hours later and my husband tells me he had a heated discussion with his co-worker because I nursed our baby in their place of employment! I won't go into details because that is really not whats important here. I will say that I am so thankful that he chose to confront my husband instead of me; I was crying just as my husband told me about it, I can only imagine my emotions if I had been there.
I initially felt like I had done something wrong. It is a major blow to my confidence for someone to feel strongly enough about what I am doing with my baby to say something about it. The more I thought about it the more I realized how silly that was. I was not doing anything wrong, and I should never be ashamed of feeding my baby!
I came up with some truth that apparently needs to be shared.
- Never feel bad about taking care of your babies! If you are taking care of your children - you ARE NOT doing anything wrong. Ever.
- It's okay to be uncomfortable if you see someone breastfeeding. Those are your feelings and you are entitled to them, Before I had kids it made me uncomfortable to see someone openly breastfeeding. It is not okay to project those feelings on to others. Ahem - like by arguing with a womens husband about her choices.
- If you love and care about a child, find a way to just be okay with however it is that they are getting fed.
- People who comment on breastfeeding being inappropriate just don't know any better. They have not experienced it, they have not helped a spouse through it, they don't know how damaging their words and nasty looks are. They just don't know any better. Hold up your head high, give them a little grace, and keep doing what you are doing.
This is what breastfeeding looks like. No boobs showing. Nothing inappropriate exposed. Just love for a tiny human.
In closing can I just say how awesome my husband is? I am thankful every day that I have a man who will protect me and my choices.
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